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  • Romantic Things to Do For Your Husband

    Romantic Things to Do For Your Husband

     

    As moms, we spend a lot of time making sure our kids are taken care of so that all of their needs are met. However, in the process, we can lose focus on other things in life that matter, such as relationships with others. With never ending to-do lists and chores galore, it’s important to have a nice balance between family, work, household chores, and relationships. If you’ve been putting relationships aside, such as your relationship with your significant other, it’s time to re-focus on that special someone in your life. Here’s a list of romantic things to do for your husband. 

    Romantic Things to Do For Your Husband

    Day 1: Make a cup of coffee in the morning.

    My husband and I enjoy coffee first thing in the morning. I know how happy I am when he makes a fresh cup of coffee for me in the morning. I like to return the favor and have a cup ready for him as soon as he comes downstairs. Drinking coffee together and chatting about life is one of our favorite things to do as a married couple.

    Day 2: Plan a passionate night of romance.

    Plan an intimate evening of romance! Schedule a night where you and your husband can focus on each other behind closed doors. Make sure the kids are asleep before you begin this exciting night with your husband so that you can fully focus on each other. The last thing you want to hear is a knock on the door because your kids need something! Create an extra special evening by wearing a new piece of lingerie for your husband.

    Day 3: Give him a hug.

    Sometimes a hug is all it takes to perk your man right up. Hugs are perfect, especially if your husband’s love language is physical touch. Surprise your guy with a hug and it just might make his day a little better! Hugs are free!

    Day 4: Send a sweet text message.

    Texting seems to be a popular way to communicate these days. Sending text messages can be simple and easy. Texts do not have to be long since a few kind words can go a long way. Send a random text message while your husband is at work. Let him know how thankful you are for him. Tell him something he does that you really love or appreciate.

    Day 5: Buy tickets to his favorite event.

    Is there an event coming to your area soon? Maybe it’s a sporting event, concert, car show, etc. Buy tickets to this event and surprise him! My husband would be thrilled if I purchased football tickets to be able to watch his favorite team play!

    This would one of my husband’s favorites on the list of Romantic Things to Do For Your Husband! 

    Day 6: Enjoy a hobby together.

    Does your husband have a certain hobby that he enjoys? Express interest in the things that he loves to do and try to learn more about this particular hobby. Eventually, this can be something that the both of you end up enjoying together. If you aren’t as interested in his hobby, it’s always a good idea to give him time to enjoy these hobbies alone. For example, my husband loves golf. I learned how to golf a few years ago and it’s turned into one of my hobbies! We like to plan golf dates together when he gets a day off. I also encourage him often to go golfing on his own –something he loves to do, too. We try to keep a good balance between the two.

    Day 7: Cook a special dinner.

    What is your husband’s favorite meal to eat? Spend some time in the kitchen creating and cooking your husband’s favorite meal. Include a special dessert to enjoy after dinner. Make this extra special by adding a nice place setting and candle to the table.

    Day 8: Clean the house.

    Schedule a day to clean the house for your husband. My husband loves to come home to a clean home. When he comes home after a long day at work, he’s able to put his feet up and enjoy his evening instead of looking around at the piles of mess which can increase stress and anxiety. We both love a clean house (who doesn’t?) so it’s important to us to keep our home neat, tidy, and as clutter free as possible. It’s all about the “choreplay!” Light the candles to make it cozy and smelling fresh!

    Day 9: Make his lunch and include a note on a napkin.

    Prepare a lunch for your husband to enjoy at work by including a few of his favorite foods, snacks, and drinks. Make it special by including a napkin with a handwritten personal message on the napkin. Not only is the lunch a nice gesture, the extra note inside will be a extra special pick me up that he may need during a stressful workday.

    Day 10: Plan a couples massage.

    A couples massage can be a great way to relieve stress and tension together. Schedule a couples massage soon and let the stress melt away!

    Day 11: Hire a babysitter, get dressed up, and go on a romantic date.

    Plan a date night out on the town. Hire a babysitter to watch the kids. Dress up and put on your favorite perfume and then head out to a romantic setting and enjoy each other’s company. When you are out with your husband, avoid talking about the children (easier said than done!) Focus on just the two of you. Talk about your dreams and your future together!

    Day 12: Say “I Love You.”

    There’s a lot of power in these three words. Verbally tell your husband that you love him as often as you can. If you have trouble verbalizing it, write it on a sticky note and leave it on the mirror so that he can see it before he leaves for work. You can also write a sweet card and place it in his car so that he sees it before he goes to work.

    I hope you enjoyed this list of romantic things to do for your husband! Get creative and add new ways to be romantic this holiday season and show your significant other how much you care. 

    What would you add to the list of ways to be romantic? What would you add to this list of Romantic Things to Do For Your Husband?

    Five Ways to Make Date Nights a Priority

    How Much Alone Time Do You Really Need As A Couple?

    4 Ways to Make Time for Your Husband

    10 Ways to Prepare for a Date Night

    Five Ways to Make Date Nights a Priority
    How Much Alone Time Do You Really Need As A Couple?
    Ways to Make Time for Your Husband
    10 Ways to Prepare for a Date Night

  • 10 Ways to Prepare for a Date Night

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    Life can get busy as a mom and wife, but don’t let the demands of each day keep you from enjoying your time with your husband! It’s important to schedule regular date nights to keep your love life romantic.

    It’s too easy to get caught up in taking care of the children day in and day out instead of taking care of the relationship.

    5 Ways to Make Date Nights a Priority

    Romantic Things to Do For Your Husband

    Ways to Make Time for Your Husband

    Days turn into weeks, weeks turn into months, months turn into years, and before you know it, you may realize that your relationship is a bit neglected.

    Don’t let the months go by without planning for regular date nights out. 

    Here are 10 ways you can prepare for a date night with your husband!

    10 Ways to Prepare for a Date Night

    Plan the Date and Find a Babysitter

    If you have children, you’ll want to secure a babysitter at least a week in advance or earlier. If you wait until the last minute, you may not have luck finding an available babysitter.

    Ways to Prepare for a Date Night

    Look and Feel Good

    The week of your scheduled date, be sure to take good care of yourself. Eat well, exercise, drink plenty of water, and get plenty of sleep.

    Pick Out a Pretty Outfit

    Plan out your outfit ahead of time and make sure it fits properly and feels good on.

    The last thing you want is to waste time on date night trying on outfit after outfit and getting discouraged because it doesn’t fit or look the way you thought it would.

    Don’t forget about the accessories and shoes!

    Get Clean

    Take a nice bubble bath the day of your date or a long shower. Wash your hair well with a quality shampoo or conditioner and relax during this time.

    Use a body wash to smell extra fresh.

    Brush Your Teeth and Floss

    Brush your teeth well and floss. You may be sharing a few kisses during date night and you’ll want to have a fresh breath!

    Gargle with mouthwash for extra freshness!

    Go Light on the Makeup

    Save time on date night by going light and natural on the make up.

    Use the basics to feel pretty including foundation, a little blush, eyeliner, and mascara. Make sure you moisturize well first!

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    Give Yourself a Manicure and Pedicure

    Trim your fingernails and toenails and coat with a fresh coat of nail polish.

    Smell Good

    Spritz yourself with your favorite perfume before your night out so that you’ll be smelling your very best and don’t leave home without putting on deodorant!

    Ways to Prepare for a Date Night

    Listen to Upbeat Music

    While getting dressed, listen to upbeat music to help put you in the mood for the night. Dance around and visualize yourself having the time of your life on your date.

    Rest Up!

    If you’ve had the kids all day long and your energy levels are low, you’ll need energy to be able to enjoy your date and stay out late.

    Take an early nap if you can or go to bed early the night before so that you have plenty of energy on your date.

    What do you do to prepare for date night? 

  • Five Ways to Make Date Nights a Priority

    It’s important to date your spouse, even if you are a busy mom! Read our Five Ways to Make Date Nights a Priority.

    Ways to Make Date Nights a Priority

    How long has it been since you and your spouse had a date night–just the two of you? Regular date nights are an important part of a strong and happy marriage, and yet all too many couples neglect them because they are too busy with other things. No matter how busy you are with work, your children and your hobbies, you can’t just let your marriage slide. You have to make your marriage a priority. Here are five ways to make date nights a priority.

    Five Ways to Make Date Nights a Priority

    1. Mark it on the Calendar

    If you are waiting for a convenient time to have your date night, you may be waiting awhile. Instead of trying to fit date nights into your already busy schedule, plan your schedule around your date nights instead. Decide on a night that works best for you–whether you want to go out one night a week or one night a month–and mark it on your calendar. Guard this date. If anything else comes up, you’ve already got plans.

    2. Make Plans in Advance

    Speaking of making plans, don’t wait until the last minute to decide where you will go or what you will do. Have a brainstorming session and list out all of the places you’d like to go or things you’d like to do. Buy tickets or gift cards in advance. You’ll be more committed if you’ve already made plans and paid.

    3. Clear Your Schedule

    If you are having a difficult time making time for date nights or if you always find yourself cutting your nights short, you may need to take a long, hard look at your schedule and determine if there is anything you need to cut out. Your relationship with your spouse should be one of the most important aspects of your life. If anything else is getting in the way, you may need to get rid of it.

    4. Understand the Importance of Regular Date Nights

    Date nights aren’t just a fun night out or something to do. They are essential for the health and well-being of your marriage. These days, not all marriages make it, unfortunately. Don’t take your marriage for granted. Give it your all and build a firm foundation that will be indestructible when tough times come. Date nights are the perfect chance to do this. When you go out as a couple, you make memories, reconnect, and make your marriage stronger and stronger.

    5. Be Flexible

    Of course, there are times of your life that this is going to be easier said than done. It will be much more difficult to go out when you have a fussy and clingy baby than when your kids are out of the house, for example. This doesn’t mean that you should just wait to have date nights until it is easier; it just means that you will have to be more flexible. You may go out late at night after the baby is already asleep, or you might both take a day off of work to spend the day together while your kids are in school.

    When’s the last time you went out on a date night with your spouse? If it’s been a while, what’s stopping you from going more regularly?

    10 Ways to Prepare for a Date Night

    Romantic Things to Do For Your Husband

    How Much Alone Time Do You Really Need As A Couple?

    4 Ways to Make Time for Your Husband

    10 Ways to Prepare for a Date Night
    Romantic Things to Do For Your Husband
    How Much Alone Time Do You Really Need As A Couple?
    Ways to Make Time for Your Husband

  • Ways to Make Time for Your Husband

    Sometimes as busy moms, we focus so much on the kids that we forget to pay attention to our husband! Here are a few tips on Ways to Make Time for Your Husband!

    Ways to Make Time for Your Husband

    With kids to take care of, errands to run, a house to clean, and a hundred other responsibilities to take care of on a daily basis, it is all too easy to let something slide.

    Unfortunately, however, when life’s demands press hard, it’s often our relationships with our husbands that suffer the most.

    While many husbands are really understanding of the reduced share of our time that they get, the fact is that they shouldn’t be getting our leftovers every time.

    Romantic Things to Do For Your Husband

    If your life is so full that your time with your husband is continually being placed on the back burner, here are four ways to make time for your husband even when you are busy.

    Ways to Make Time for Your Husband

    Mark it on the Calendar

    If you wait until a free night magically arrives before you spend intentional time with your husband, you’re going to be waiting a long time.

    Instead, you have to be intentional. Mark a regular date night on the calendar–whether it is once a month or once a week–and treat it just like you would any other appointment.

    While scheduling time in advance might not seem romantic at first, it is a lot more romantic than not spending time together at all.

    Hire a Babysitter

    If your small children are preventing you from finding time for yourselves, it may be time to hire a babysitter.

    Kids benefit from having additional people to love them and care for them, and your relationship will benefit from a little time away.

    If you cannot afford a babysitter, swap child care with a friend so you both get a free night out.

    Alternately, you may take a day off of work while the kids are in school.

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    10 Ways to Prepare for a Date Night

    Wake Up Early or Stay Up Late

    Another great alternative is to make spending time together part of your daily routine.

    Could you both wake up 15 minutes earlier to have coffee together before the kids wake up? Could you stay up late snuggling and watching funny movies after the kids are asleep?

    If you’re used to watching TV, reading, or playing online before you go to bed anyways, use that time for each other instead.

    Let the Children Watch Cartoons a Little Longer

    Sometimes conflicting work schedules make getting alone time nearly impossible. This is when you’ll really have to get creative.

    If the only time you can spend quality time together is during the day when the children are awake, you may need to distract them for a little bit.

    This can include letting them watch cartoons a little longer, sending them off to play together in their rooms or doing family activities that allow you to talk, such as family bike rides with the little ones in the bike trailer.

    Getting to spend time with your husband should be the highlight of your day–not an annoying task that often gets left off of your to-do list.

    While making time for your husband can be tough–especially during various seasons of life–the strengthened relationship you’ll have will be worth all of the time you put into it.

    What tips do you have for ways to make time with your husband? Please share with us in the comment section!

  • How Much Alone Time Do You Really Need As A Couple?

    How Much Alone Time Do You Really Need As A Couple?

    It doesn’t matter if you’ve been married for five years or fifty, if you have six children or none at all, if your house is big or small–every couple needs a little alone time away from each other every now and then. This isn’t a bad thing–it’s simply a fact of life!

    Alone time allows you relax, regroup and refocus. It allows you to pursue interests the other isn’t enthusiastic about. It allows you make other friends, and it gives you more to talk about when you’re together. It helps you appreciate the time you have together more, since you aren’t constantly breathing down each other’s necks all of the time!

    How Much Alone Time Do You Really Need As A Couple?

    Every couple needs some amount of alone time; the question is: How much alone time do you really need?

    Obviously, the answer will vary for every couple. Some couples can work side-by-side all day and still enjoy each other’s company in the evening. Others, introverts especially, really need extra time by themselves. There’s no one-size-fits-all answer. The best solution, then, is to find out how much alone time YOU need. You can do that by asking yourself these five questions.

    1. How Do I Feel When We Spend Time Together?

    You just finished putting the kids to bed and you can tell your husband wants to spend some time with you. What is your initial reaction? Are you excited to finally spend some alone time together, or would you rather just crash on the couch by yourself? If you generally enjoy your spouse and his company, you may need a little more time to yourself.

    2. How Do I Feel When We Spend Time Apart?

    Fast forward an hour or two. Your husband is doing his own thing and you’ve had a little time to relax. Do you start to miss him and wonder what he’s up to? Or are you secretly glad he’s busy doing something else so you can relax by yourself? Take note of when your feelings start to change. This can be a good indicator to let you know exactly how much time you need.

    3. Are There Other Issues that are Causing Me to Feel this Way?

    Of course, often times, it isn’t just the amount of time you spend together that determines how you feel about spending time with your husband. If you are fighting or don’t have any interests in common, those can dramatically affect how you feel as well. Take a minute to really think about why you do or don’t want to spend time together. Is something going on, or do you simply just need to recharge by yourself and that’s it?

    4. How Can I Better Enjoy the Times We Have Together?

    If your honest answers to question number three are less than pretty, it’s time to put in the hard work. Maybe you need to fight through your feelings to sit down and really talk, or maybe you need to find more interests that you have in common. Whether you spend a little or a lot of time together, you want your time together to be as enjoyable and relaxing as possible.

    5. How Much Time Do I Really Have?

    While the first four questions are a great way to determine just how much time you’d ideally like to spend together, unfortunately sometimes life and busy schedules get in the way. When this happens, it’s time to ask yourself question number five: How much time do I really have?

    Are you so busy driving the kids around, working, cleaning or pursuing other hobbies that you simply don’t have any time or energy left to hang out together at the end of the night? While it is normal to have exceptionally busy times in your life, if you find that this is always happening, it may be time to make a change. Your spouse should be either top of your priority list or very close to it. If he’s not, it’s time to let some other things go.

    How much time do you spend with your husband on a regular basis? 

    Five Ways to Make Date Nights a Priority

    Romantic Things to Do For Your Husband

    10 Ways to Prepare for a Date Night

    4 Ways to Make Time for Your Husband

    Five Ways to Make Date Nights a Priority
    Romantic Things to Do For Your Husband
    10 Ways to Prepare for a Date Night
    Ways to Make Time for Your Husband